Dealing with toxic family members at family gatherings can be stressful, but there are a few strategies that you can use to make the day tolerable:
Set boundaries: Decide beforehand what your boundaries are and stick to them. For example, you might decide that you won't engage in certain topics of conversation or that you won't tolerate certain behaviors.
Focus on the positive interactions: Seek out family members who you have positive relationships with and spend time with them.
Limit your time: You don't have to stay for the entire gathering. Plan to arrive late or leave early to minimize your exposure to toxic family members (this is my go-to in my situations😉)
Take breaks: If you start to feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a break. Go for a walk or find a quiet spot to sit and take a few minutes to yourself.
Practice self-care: Take care of yourself before and after the gathering. This might include getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and doing activities that bring you joy.
Remember that you have the power to control your own reactions and behavior. It may also be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend to process your feelings and develop coping strategies. Sometimes just talking with a friend about how to handle the situation beforehand is enough. I hope you enjoy your holiday as much as possible!